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Lying in Family Court

Lying in Family Court By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. © 2008 High Conflict Institute One of the biggest surprises is the extent of lying in Family Court: lies about income, assets and even complete fabrications of child abuse and domestic violence. Why do people lie so much?...

Parallel Parenting for High Conflict Families

Parallel Parenting for High Conflict Families By Philip M. Stahl, Ph.D. There’s been a great deal of publicity lately about the negative impact of divorce on children. Wallerstein et al. (2000), highlighted a small group of children who have shown ongoing...

Tearing The Child Apart

Psychoanalytic Psychology Copyright 2006 by the American Psychological Association 2006, Vol. 23, No. 3, 542–553 0736-9735/06/$12.00 DOI: 10.1037/0736-9735.23.3.542 Tearing The Child Apart The Contribution of Narcissism, Envy, and Perverse Modes of Thought to Child...

The So-Called High-Conflict Couple: A Closer Look

The American Journal of Family Therapy, 32:101–117, 2004 Copyright © Taylor & Francis, Inc. ISSN: 0192-6187 print / 1521-0383 online DOI: 10.1080/01926180490424217 The So-Called High-Conflict Couple: A Closer Look Michael Friedman This article examines the concept...

The Wounds of Conflict

THE WOUNDS OF CONFLICT by Philip M. Stahl, Ph.D. There’s been a great deal of publicity lately about the negative impact of divorce on children. This research, by Dr. Judith Wallerstein, has highlighted a small group of children who have shown ongoing problems...

Use Of Therapy in Divorce and Custody

Uses of Therapy in Divorce Therapy can save money, reduce trauma and help avoid bad decisions in divorce. The following are some ways that therapy can be used (and misused): Deciding to Divorce Many people feel frustrated in their marriages, but are unsure about...

When Co-Parenting Doesn’t Work

When Co-Parenting Doesn’t Work By Brook Olsen When a divorce occurs or parents that were never married split up it is assumed that both parents will work together in a co parenting arrangement to minimize the impact on the children. Some time this also includes...

As Went The Marriage So Goes The Divorce

As went the marriage so goes the divorce & Stay away from the flypaper! These were the most important words spoken to me when I was going through my high conflict divorce some 13 years ago. I was working with a therapist that gave me this most important statement...

Avoiding False Allegations

Avoiding False Allegations I have found In High conflict divorce and custody cases all to often one of the parents have a less than principled strategy to obtain full custody of the children and to completely control the other parent. The most effective way to...

Our Family Wizard Partnership

Announcement: Our Family Wizard Partnership We are pleased to announce that the High Conflict Diversion Program has partnered with Our Family Wizard – an amazing resource to better manage all child custody and visitation matters after divorce or other custody...

High Conflict Divorce “HOW IT IS!”

“How It Is” In High Conflict Divorice “As long as you have certain desires about 
how it ought to be you can’t see how it is.” — Ram Dass, Spiritual Teacher I woke up this morning and eventually, as I usually do, checked my email. There...

Using a Strong Parenting Plan to Avoid Conflict

Using A Strong Parenting Plan To Avoid Conflict Your parenting plan is the piece of the puzzle that is going to inoculate you from most of the causes of the conflict. Your parenting plan must include specifics of the day of the week and the time of the day for the...

High Conflict Divorce, What Really Drives IT

High Conflict Divorce, What Really Drives It In understanding High Conflict Divorce it is essential to understand what lies at its roots.. Frequently, we humans get caught up in conflict for the simple reason that we are in some way attached to it. Although this...

Making the Right Decision for the Right Reason

Making the Right Decision for the Right Reason By Brook Olsen / High Conflict Diversion Program™ It’s a death or severe accident in the family. It’s a wedding or a birthday. These are events that your children must have an opportunity to be a part of. Family...

Genuine Expectation Opportunities (GEO’s)

Genuine Expectation Opportunities (GEO’s) During a high conflict divorce keeping focused on a more positive future  is essential. It’s equally as important, if not more important, to help your children focus on this as well. Unavoidable events related to divorce...

Change Your Perspective: Victim to Victor

Change Your Perspective:   Victim to Victor It can be extremely difficult to let go of the conflicts that caused a marriage to fall apart. However, it’s vital we disengage ourselves. Failure to do so may negatively affect the way we react to situations...

The Game of What If

The Game of What If By Brook Olsen                                                                                                                                                     Founder/Director: High Conflict Diversion Program Recently while sitting with a...

MITIGATING HIGH CONFLICT DIVORCE

Mitigating High Conflict Divorce End the Cycle of Conflict – Focus On the Children By Brook Olsen                                                                                                                                                    Founder/Director:...

The Need for Parallel Parenting

The Need for Parallel Parenting By Brook Olsen                                                                                                                                                             Founder/Director: High Conflict Diversion Program™ In the early...