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When Co-Parenting Doesn’t Work

When Co-Parenting Doesn’t Work By Brook Olsen When a divorce occurs or parents that were never married split up it is assumed that both parents will work together in a co parenting arrangement to minimize the impact on the children. Some time this also includes parents of children of from relationships that were non-meaningful. Most [...]

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As Went The Marriage So Goes The Divorce

These were the most important words spoken to me when I was going through my high conflict divorce some 13 years ago. I was working with a therapist that gave me this most important statement that helped me through the nearly 2½-year process that was to come. What he said changed the way I thought [...]

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Avoiding False Allegations

Avoiding False Allegations I have found In High conflict divorce and custody cases all to often one of the parents have a less than principled strategy to obtain full custody of the children and to completely control the other parent. The most effective way to accomplish this is to completely remove the other parent from [...]

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Our Family Wizard Partnership

We are pleased to announce that the High Conflict Diversion Program has partnered with Our Family Wizard – an amazing resource to better manage all child custody and visitation matters after divorce or other custody disputes. At The High Conflict Diversion Program, we’re always searching for new ways to help to improve the difficult issues [...]

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High Conflict Divorce “HOW IT IS!”

"How It Is" In High Conflict Divorice "As long as you have certain desires about 
how it ought to be you can't see how it is." — Ram Dass, Spiritual Teacher I woke up this morning and eventually, as I usually do, checked my email. There in one of the emails was this inspirational quote [...]

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Using a Strong Parenting Plan to Avoid Conflict

Using A Strong Parenting Plan To Avoid Conflict Your parenting plan is the piece of the puzzle that is going to inoculate you from most of the causes of the conflict. Your parenting plan must include specifics of the day of the week and the time of the day for the pick up and drop [...]

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High Conflict Divorce, What Really Drives IT

High Conflict Divorce, What Really Drives It In understanding High Conflict Divorce it is essential to understand what lies at its roots.. Frequently, we humans get caught up in conflict for the simple reason that we are in some way attached to it. Although this statement may at first sound absurd, it has been proven [...]

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Making the Right Decision for the Right Reason

By Brook Olsen / High Conflict Diversion Program™ It’s a death or severe accident in the family. It’s a wedding or a birthday. These are events that your children must have an opportunity to be a part of. Family celebrations are a big deal. Things that will happen only once in a lifetime are not [...]

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Genuine Expectation Opportunities (GEO’s)

During a high conflict divorce keeping focused on a more positive future  is essential. It’s equally as important, if not more important, to help your children focus on this as well. Unavoidable events related to divorce (court dates, dispositions, settlement issues, custody issues, etc) affect a child just as they affect you. It’s essential to [...]

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Change Your Perspective: Victim to Victor

It can be extremely difficult to let go of the conflicts that caused a marriage to fall apart. However, it’s vital we disengage ourselves. Failure to do so may negatively affect the way we react to situations post-separation. Change your thinking and treat this time as an opportunity to give yourself fresh start on life. [...]

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